Sunday, October 16, 2011

Gay Men VS. Gay Women

So recently it was brought to my attention that there is a division in the gay community (yes I know there are many but this is the specific one I want to address) and that division is between gay men and gay women. Now most of my friends are gay men so it never occurred to me that gay men and gay women don't like each other. In fact it wasn't until I was chatting with two of my best friends that I realized this. One of my friends is in a gay fraternity at his university and he told me that none of the men in his fraternity like lesbians. I found this to be incredibly shocking and I asked him how he felt about that to which he responded that he too had a distaste for lesbians (except me) as if that makes it better to know that I am the exception to this distaste. When I asked his and his brothers reasons for not liking lesbians I found that apparently there was a short list:
1. Lesbians are drama
2. They think that everyone is trying to steal their girlfriend
I do not remember the rest of the list but I know that I was peeved right after the first one. Whether or not I am included in the lesbians that he doesn't like these reasons for disliking them upset me a great deal. I told him that I thought that gay men had just as much drama as lesbians, to which my other gay friend agreed, and that I thought it was presumptuous to assume that lesbians think everyone is trying to steal their girlfriend, I for one know no one like this.
Now I respect everyone and their opinions, however this got to me, not just because I am a lesbian but also because I believe that this kind of divide, any kind of divide really, in our own community is just stupid. It's not enough that we are discriminated against by others but now we are going to discriminate within our own community? We should be united and supportive of one another because we all understand what each other are going through and we understand that it is hard. This includes bi-sexual people, transgender, drag queens etc. no one should be discriminated against in their own community. The acronym is GLBTQ (and a lot of other letters I don't know off of the top of my head) not just G or L or B. The acronym is united not divided so why cant we be?

1 comment:

  1. Honestly, to me his logic sounds like the same things that are said about all women: women are always the cause of/involved with infinite drama, and are super jealous. Misogyny is the greatest.

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